One of the speakers at the Time Out For Women in early May in Billings had lost his wife to cancer in the last year.  His name is Michael Wilcox  and the title of his presentation was Laying Hold on Every Good Thing.  The description of his talk was...It is the Lord's desire that we find and do good during our time on earth. And He has provided a compass or map to help us know how. If we use the compass of His word, He will direct us to every good thing of life that will enrich our mortal experience, prepare us for eternity, and bring us happiness now and forever.

He said after his wife died, he prayed, "Father in heaven, why do we have to lose the things we love?  and He said, it is the way of things.  That is how we learn how much we love.  That is how we learn what to value, but don't always be said because I can bring good out of even this."